CentreStage on Nicky’s Blog: Bonnie Trachtenberg

Welcome to the second edition of CentreStage!

CentreStage is a new feature on my blog that will showcase fantastic authors from around the world, introducing in particular my fellow authors in the Sapphire Star Publishing family, as well as fellow featured authors at loveahappyending.com.  In this new, exciting feature, these authors might write for you about their lives, or their writing journey, or anything else that matters to them.  Every feature will be different in format and flavour, so watch out for a variety of stories and tales.

Today, it is my tremendous pleasure to welcome loveahappyending.com featured author, Bonnie Trachtenberg!  Bonnie writes romantic comedy, and today she talks about her spiritual side… and how that features in her amazing novels!

Bonnie Trachtenberg writes:  “When the Spirit Grabbed Me”

There are no accidents—or so I’ve come to believe on my journey through life. That fact takes a bit of the sting out of some life’s more difficult events. If you believe there is a reason for everything, you spend less time fretting and feeling sorry for yourself, and more time figuring out exactly what it is you are supposed to be learning from the experience. Life is a school, after all, and don’t we all want to graduate with honors?

That is merely one of the pearls I’ve collected on my ongoing search for ultimate wisdom. This odyssey began in my childhood, with distinct memories of places I’d never visited and people I didn’t know. As I had an active imagination, I chalked them up to dreams, but something in me always knew there was more to life than what I could perceive with my five senses. I often felt a loving, otherworldly, presence around me, though nobody in my family ever made mention of such things.

I will never forget the day when, as an adolescent, I caught a glimpse of myself in the bathroom mirror, and, for just a few moments, felt separate from that young girl. It was the first time I became consciously aware that my spirit was a separate entity from my body—that this was just one of my “outfits” and there had been many others. Needless to say it was a pretty mind-blowing experience for a preteen!

Around that time, I began reading anything and everything I could find on every spiritual topic from reincarnation to out-of-body experiences, ghosts to psychic phenomena, energy healing to synchronicity and beyond. My preferred game was the Ouija board, which I’ve since come to learn was a fairly dangerous “toy” to being playing with unprotected. Since then, my enthrallment with the spiritual world has never wavered.

As an adult, one of my favorite places to be is in a spiritual book store. I’ve spent many blissful hours there, oftentimes with my best friend, Cathy (a kindred spirit for sure). For the last decade or so, my greatest concentration of study has been the afterlife. I know the reason for this is not based in fear of my own death, as I firmly believe we go to a much better place, but rather, in fear of the death of my loved ones. I dread being left in this often-harsh realm without the people I love most. One-way conversations seem like quite a lonely prospect and I’ve prayed for the ability to see and hear those who have passed.

I’ve visited gifted mediums in search of proof. Interestingly (and unprovoked) several have told me I possess the gift of healing and should be using it. (I did become a Reiki master last year and occasionally use my hands to help myself, my animals and my husband when he lets me.) I have, on several occasions, exhibited precognitive abilities (dreaming things before they come true). I enlisted in psychic development classes and realized, to my amazement, my capabilities far exceed what I imagined them to be. This gives me hope that perhaps, one day, I will be able to communicate directly with loved ones on the other side of the veil. I’ve also learned that the key to everything spiritual lies in meditation, something I strive to do every day if possible. Since beginning that practice, I’ve had two out-of-body experiences (extremely cool!), and have witnessed spiritual activity in my home that cannot be explained any other way.

Being that I write romantic comedies, most people might not expect spirituality to enter into my work, but it has. In fact, it’s very difficult to bar it, since it has become such an integral part of who I am. In Wedlocked, you’ll find a scene where a ghost helps bring a couple together (based on a true story from my life). In my new book, due out April 25th, you’ll meet a cat who seems to possess the power to heal. Remind you of anyone? I’m about to begin work on my third novel, which will deal with near-death experiences, which, of late, have become my greatest focus. The experiences of people who have died and been brought back to life are quite astonishing, and open the door to the miracle of what comes “after”. Luckily, evidence seems to suggest a lot more than clouds and harps!

The paths we lead in life are truly remarkable when you stand back to observe them. I joined the lovely folks at Loveahappyending.com to help promote myself as a romantic comedy author and relationship columnist. To my astonishment, I found so many of my colleagues here, too, possess their own great interest, love, and fascination with the metaphysical world and often share their own stories in books, blogs and comments.  Coincidence? I doubt it. After all, there are no accidents.

Thank you so much, Bonnie, for this amazing feature.  I loved hearing about how the spiritual experiences do feature in your work… and I look forward to finding out more in your next book.  A cat with healing powers?  Bring it on!!

About Bonnie Trachtenberg

Bonnie Trachtenberg is the award-winning, bestselling author of Wedlocked: A Novel. She writes a monthly relationship and advice column for loveahappyending.com. Bonnie was senior writer and copy chief at Book-of-the-Month Club and has written seven children’s book adaptations. She has also written for three newspapers and penned countless magazine articles. Her second novel will be released in April.

You can learn more about Bonnie on her blog and you can also read her relationship column at loveahappyending.com.  Bonnie is on Facebook and Twitter.
About Wedlocked

In this laugh-out-loud romantic comedy inspired by true events, Rebecca Ross, a thirty-six-year-old struggling actress, lets years of disappointment and heartache catapult her into a disastrous marriage to a charismatic man with more than a few surprises up his sleeve. Travel along on their hilarious honeymoon from hell in Italy, which soon has Rebecca longing for her miserable days of singlehood. An entertaining and poignant story about second chances, finding love, and most importantly, finding yourself.

Wedlocked is available on Amazon Kindle and from Barnes & Noble.

All images courtesy of Bonnie Trachtenberg: Thanks, Bonnie!

18 responses to “CentreStage on Nicky’s Blog: Bonnie Trachtenberg

  1. Interesting to read about this Bonnie. I’ve got Wedlocked on the Kindle app on my iPad and am looking forward to reading it. It sounds like it will be right up my street.

  2. It’s a lovely story Bonnie and written, without a doubt, from the depths of your soul. You need have no fear of “losing” loved ones because no one is ever lost, and you communicate with those discarnate souls already, as do all of us. It’s just that the trappings of the ephemeral world tend to veil this truth. To quote Sri Aurobindo “The spirit shall look out through matter’s gaze and matter shall reveal the spirit’s face”. Thanks to Nicky too for posting this wonderful article on her blog.

    • Hi Rich, thanks for stopping by! It is an honour to have Bonnie visiting, and I greatly enjoyed her feature. I love your comment that no one is ever lost; I shall have to go and mull that one over! XX –Nicky

  3. What a beautifully written piece. I’m in total agreement; there are no coincidences in life, what happens to us happens for a reason. I have also experienced my life from another dimension – perhaps a tale for a rainy day however.

    • It is a beautiful piece, and I am honoured that Bonnie brought it to CentreStage! I do firmly believe that everything happens for a reason; not one, perhaps, that you can always immediately grasp, but that will eventually reveal itself. I also believe that life has a habit of working out for the best. Thanks for stopping by, Kathryn, I love your comment. XX

  4. I wasn’t sure I ‘believed’, Bonnie. I think I was more of the ‘open to suggestion’ opinion. However, Linn Holton’s book, Touched by the Light, and her reasons around writing it got me thinking. Two events in particular came to mind. I lost my parents quite young (a good while ago now – so not too sad). When I heard of my mum passing, I picked up the phone, totally distraught, as one would be, to hear my sister screaming the other end. I hadn’t dialled a number. I put it down to some freakish crosswire thing, but it made me realise my sister might be the one in need of someone to be strong. Similarly, when my dad passed away soon after, we decided to look at headstones. While I travelled to my sister’s house, she decided to ring around some stonemasons. When I arrived, I found her walking around almost in a trance and as white as a sheet. She couldn’t tell me why. She said you have to listen, and calmly dialled a stonemason’s telephone number and pressed the phone to my ear. A man picked up and, as clear as a bell, answered with my father’s full name. We dialled again – twice – listening without speaking, then, when we found our voices and the courage to speak, the line went dead. No one by that name worked there we eventually found. I wonder now. I really do. Fab post. Looking forward to the next book, Bonnie!

    • Hi Sheryl, thanks for stopping by and sharing your experience. That’s pretty powerful! And kudos to Bonnie and Linn for making you consider those experiences in a new light. There’s a whole world opening up here that I hadn’t previously considered. Amazing! Thanks again! xx

  5. Thank you all so much for your kind and quite fascinating comments. First, thank you Nicky for hosting me! Melanie, hope you enjoy my book and thanks for commenting. Richard, I so appreciate your words of comfort, “no one is ever lost.” I know that fact in my heart and aspire to your otherworldly experiences and wisdom. Kathryn, I would love to hear your “rainy day” tale one day! Sheryl, so glad your experiences seem to have made you a believer. Quite amazing! When my brother-in-law died of cancer last year at the age of only 53, that night, my sister picked up her Blackberry phone and screamed. There was an email message from him in her new messages. The subject line read “Miss me?” Somehow his spirit had pulled an old message he’d sent to her from two years earlier! We do live on. I can feel it. And what a relief and comfort that is!

  6. A fascinating post, Bonnie, that reveals another intriguing side to you!

  7. I loved reading this interview – it’s so good to get to know more about you Bonnie – and I so empathise with your thoughts on spirituality. I tend to be more practically minded than is good for me but I do have moments when I’m completly open minded – and reading your interview was one of them.
    Great post NIcky!

    • Hi Janice, thanks for stopping by. I’m with you on the more practically-minded front and it’s great to read about experiences like Bonnie’s, or Linn’s or Sheryl’s, that challenge and stretch my perspective. Thanks for taking the time to comment! 🙂

  8. What a fascinating post. And hearing more and more about people’s experiences I truly believe there has to be “something” out there, be it guardian angel, spirit or ghost. We just have to open our eyes and our minds to see.
    Great feature, Nicky. Looking forward to the next.

  9. Fascinated to read all about Bonnie’s experiences, as a firm believer in life after death I can identify with much of what Bonnie says. To have the power of healing is a great gift, a blessing. Lovely interview ladies!

  10. Thanks so much Patricia, Janice, Kit and Linn for your comments! It’s so nice to know others appreciate and can relate to this topic, and I very much enjoy getting to know new things about all of you as well!

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